Love vs Infatuation

It can often be hard to tell the difference between being in love or just feeling infatuated with someone. So, how do you know if it's love or just infatuation?

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I willing to let him/her go if it was the best thing for them?

2. Am I willing to put his/her needs before my own?

3. Am I willing to wait to have sex until he/she is also ready?

4. Am I willing to sacrifice my dreams so that his/her dreams can come true?

5. Do I respect and admire him/her?

6. Would I feel the same way if he/she gained weight?

7. Would I feel the same way if he/she got sick?

8. Would I feel the same way if we got into an argument?


If you answered ‘yes’ to all of these questions, then you may really be in love. If not, then maybe you should wait until you can answer ‘yes’ to these questions, before calling it love. Both love and infatuation are intense feelings for another person, and it is often difficult to work out the difference.


Infatuation with another person is when you get so carried away with your feelings for that person that the feeling itself can be almost an addiction. Infatuation is often rooted in a person’s physical beauty or sexual appeal. When one person is infatuated with another, he or she will most likely be blind to their faults, thinking that the other is perfect in every way. A person who is infatuated will sometimes feel like they own the other person, and will be jealous or paranoid of losing him or her. Infatuation is often weakened by time and separation.


Love, on the other hand, is unconditional, always puts the other person first, and will sacrifice anything for them, even if that means letting that person go. Love sees the other person in an honest light—the good things and the bad things—and accepts that person anyway. Love is more focused on giving than on getting, is other-centered not self-centered.

A person who is in love makes space for the other to become the best person that they can be, and will do anything to help him or her succeed and achieve their dreams. Time and separation do not weaken love; in fact, sometimes time and separation strengthen love. Some believe that love comes from God and that showing love to others is part of what they are called to.