Outdated or misunderstood?
Do professionals misunderstand the values of young people of faith?
First of all, professionals need to know that young people of faith really do believe in the faith they follow. For many their faith is their main source of identity, values, self-esteem and truth. They are involved in worship with their faith community and receive teaching both at home and in their faith group about the personal and moral values that are regarded as consistent with their faith.
This is not to claim that they are able to put its values into practice in every situation. They would, however, make that their aim. They do this in a context of ongoing debate within their communities, where there is generally a continuum of views - from strict traditionalists, to modernists trying to engage with a wider world.
A young Muslim helpline worker comments: 'It’s just having a basic knowledge. For example, if you were sitting there talking to someone about boy/girl concern, and you’re saying, “so what, you’ve got a girlfriend?” Well, actually, no, because in Islam you’re not supposed to have a relationship [unless it is] a relationship when you’re trying to get to know someone, with the intention of marriage. … It’s having that knowledge, of recognising the ways they can deal with it, and realising why their family aren’t happy.' 
However there does need to be a difference made between shared faith values and some traditional cultural values and practices that are not part of faith and may harm young people. 5 The guides in ‘What Faith Groups Believe’ will give you an outline of general beliefs shared by each faith community.
 Forum factsheet 21: Meeting the needs of girls and young women in sex and relationships education Caroline Ray Sex Education Forum 2000 at http://www.sexeducationforum.org.uk/media/3493/girls_yw.pdf
 For example : Faith, Values and Sex & Relationships Education Simon Blake Simon Blake (Author), Zarine Katrak National Children's Bureau London 2002
 an extreme is FGM see: Female Genital Mutilation Multi-Agency Practice Guidelines FCO 2011 http://www.fco.gov.uk/resources/en/pdf/travel-living-abroad/when-things-go-wrong/multi-agency-fgm-guidelines.pdf