We probably all have a certain type of respect for say the law, or our religion or maybe national identity.
But being respectful of our parents, friends and others in relationships can sometimes be a bit muddled.
Where there are differences of opinion, feelings, culture or belief there is always a choice to be made: respect the difference, or bully the other person until they change. When a person does not have respect for the other, they can cause serious harm, both emotionally and at times physically too. For any relationship to work in the long term there must be equal respect.
Your friends might have a relationship where you joke around with each other and say things that would be disrespectful coming from someone else, but it’s just how you have fun. This is fine, as long as everyone is having fun, but it’s not OK if someone is uncomfortable or offended by the banter.
Think carefully about a friendship or relationship you have, and answer these questions honestly:
Am I actually happy?
Do I feel I can say something and know that I won’t be laughed at?
Do I feel like I am an equal in this relationship?
Are my values respected?
Would this person ever make me do something I wasn’t sure about?
If your answers make you question a relationship, it maybe that the relationship is not working and a decision needs to be made whether to continue the relationship or not. Look at our conflict page for ideas of steps you can take to improve the relationship.
Our family and friends deserve to be respected and in turn you should also be treated with respect. The ways we interact with others can become patterns in our live, sometimes for good and sometimes not so good. Those patterns will in time affect how you see your future partner.